Quote cards made for the post: “Why Not From Beautiful, to Still Beautiful?”, and also some reflections I had while putting them together. I’m not here to dispense advice, because god knows I’m struggling to get my own life in order! But I just wanted to scribble these thoughts down as guideposts, for those dim days when I lose my way:
1. There is No Need to Prove Anything to Anyone
Not even to yourself. It only leads to a more confused you, and hinders rather than promotes growth. What you must do is to focus on making the best out of the present moment. If you can learn to appreciate whatever it is that you’re doing, the results will be a consequence of that action. There is no need to worry.
2. You Are Worth Your Existence Just as You Are
No matter your state of health or wealth. No one has any right to tell you that you’re less of a human being than they are; we are all made of the same stuff, share this planet as home, and will return to dust together.
3. You Are Just as Human as Anyone Else
Having said that, neither should you ever believe that you are more of a human being than anyone else, based solely on your material possessions, or standing in our volatile society. These are the sort of achievements that can go up in smoke overnight. If it comes to that, what are you, then?
4. Abandon the Heavy Baggage of Ego
Abandon the cruel expectations from the slave drivers, Should and Should Not. They will always be there as gatekeepers of our morals, but they also have huge egos. Sometimes they overstep their boundaries, and cause more harm than good. Do not let them manipulate you, and sap you of your humanity. Travel light to reach the expanse of knowledge, and leave lots of room to acquire the jewels of joy you will find along the way.
5. Focus on Building a Strong Core of Being
One that external forces and petty opinions have no dominion over. Of course it will chip and crumble at times, but because of who you are, you have the infinite ability to rebuild. So keep moving forward, to the perfect rhythm that your body sets. Follow its pace, or you will not go far. You are bound to get blisters along the way, some of us more than others. They will cause permanent scars. These scars are gems of wisdom in the flesh, and wisdom is sacred. It has the power to make or break worlds, and you have earned the right to hold some of this fire. But be careful, for this fire will burn you alive if you think you are its master, and try to force it upon someone else.
6. Befriend Yourself, You Will be Pleasantly Surprised
There will be many surprises when you start getting to know yourself better. You will be impressed with your abilities and unlock hidden potential. Heck, you might even start to like yourself, and all the traits that you thought you wanted nothing to do with!
7. Break Down That Wall Around Your Heart
I still have no answer to the question, ‘who am I?’, except that I am human. We are unyielding, vulnerable and changeable all at once. I suppose we’ll have to live out our lives to find out the answer. To keep listening and tuning that musical resonance deep within our beings. It might take a bit of work breaking down the icy fortresses we’ve built around our hearts, in a foolish attempt to protect that which needs no protecting.
Character is What You Know You Are by Marva Collins
“Character is what you know you are, not what others think you have.” – Marva Collins