Most young people overestimate their maturity or ability, and I was no exception. I was proud and stubborn, and carried my pains and health burdens alone as if suffering is honourable. But it’s like carrying a heavy load of groceries over a long distance. It might be bearable for a while, easy even, but eventually starts to gnaw at your fingers. The weight is the same, but the load feels heavier. You aren’t any weaker, but the handles are not optimised for carrying such loads over a long period of time.
Some of us have more bags to carry in life, but what stops us from splitting that load up? To some of your loved ones, the weight of an extra bag is a non-issue, so why are you worried about handing it over? In fact, I’m pretty sure that most of your true friends and family will be happy to share that load with you. I know I would. The bonds formed through suffering are deeper, even though they take root in a very dark place. It not only brings out the humanity dwelling within us, but allows them to connect and feel closer to you. Some of them love you so much that they would trade places with you if they could, don’t break their hearts further with rejection. They want to be part of your world, so why won’t you let them?
It’s going to be a long road ahead in life. There is no need to bleed when loved ones are walking beside you, with a free hand offering assistance. Hand part of that load over. It not only puts both of you more at ease, but frees up capacity for you to enjoy each other’s company. What’s the point of exhausting all your energy trying to keep up, while bearing an unfair load to begin with? Life is actually more meaningful this way. It not only reminds us of our limitations as a human being, but our ability to make a difference simply by stretching out one hand.
It’s Not the Load by Lou Holtz
“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” – Lou Holtz