The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness

The Barriers That Throw Rocks into My Bucket List with Chronic Illness

*Note: This article was originally written for my monthly linkups, which I've archived as it was taking too much out of me. However, I've kept most of the posts written as I realise it's much like a diary with memories that make me nostalgic or smile. I hope you enjoy reading them, too! šŸ™‚

Allocating More Time & Effort Into My Bucket List

I’m going to be honest and admit that I’ve grown a bit tired of writing my own monthly prompts of late. I have a gazillion ideas and other projects I want to work on, so I will probably be allocating more time and energy toward them instead. Things like regular types of blog posts (which I haven’t done in a while!), my new job, my own business website, and blog experimentations in other niches. Also on longer-term goals that are on my bucket list, which I yabber about below.

Maybe it’s an Aries thing? ;) I am always great at and super excited with kicking off new projects. But have a hard time maintaining them and pacing ;)

Don’t worry though, I still enjoy reading what you have to share every month, and will keep these linkups up and running. I will probably get back on the train at some point, too (if I even hop off, that is).

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Thoughts on My Bucket List Goals with Chronic Illness

Defining, Saving & Educating

I need to re-define my priorities, my business, my finances and my life. I’m turning 35 this year and it feels like one of those milestone years. I guess in terms of biology, it is kind of a milestone year.

I wasn’t even aware that I did indeed have a bucket list; I just figured that it didn’t matter if I dropped dead at any point in time as I’ve reached that level of acceptance after four near death experiences. So many people in war torn or inaccessible countries don’t even have that privilege of a bucket list or dreams. Even thinking about them could mean death.

My Bucket List

There are a few things I would really like to accomplish in life, namely:

  • Start My Own Family. It’s been on the list since I was a tween. At 14, I’ve had to make decisions about my body that involved fertility, even though I didn’t even have a first love, yet. Thing is, the older I get, the less motivated I am with all the daily aches and pains. Often I think to myself, if I can’t even take care of myself, what more an active kid or two who will require attention 24/7?

    It was one of the reasons why I got a puppy actually, to test myself a little bit. Having done that, I know that I will survive a kid, even though I’m sure a kid is heaps harder to take care of compared to a crazy, nippy little pup (don’t let those puppy eyes fool you for one second). As a human being, we always find a way to make it through.

Health & Financial Barriers (Don’t We All Have Them?!)

Okay so enough rambling about my bucket list. The main barriers as you very well may guess, are health and finances. I know that I have to take care of my health and be even more disciplined about it, if I want to achieve any of these life goals. Without it, finances would be even more unachievable than it already is anyway.

Even working part time is a struggle for me, as I realise how much even four hours of work a day - if at all - is for my body. But I know with better discipline, focus, stress management and a healthier lifestyle, I can improve my energy levels, too.

How I wish I had a sponsor especially for my studies (yes hint hint - anybody? :) ). But for now, I’ve started saving wee bits of money in investment portfolios. Admittedly I know jack shit about investing, and have tried to read up a little more about it. But I must say that it really doesn’t interest me at all (maybe that’s why I’m so broke).

So I’m using two of those AI investment platforms (StashAway & MoneyOwl), and see how they go. They’re pretty established and approved by the Monetary Board in Singapore, so I think that more or less they’re okay. Better than a bank, they say, but so far I haven’t seen much returns. Then again, my investments so far are really miniscule compared to many others. Although I guess it’s a good thing that I finally started investing.

I guess that’s it from me for the month. I am also aware that priorities and bucket lists can change over time. Life is 'interesting', to say the least. To continue, you can read the previous or next diary entries.

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Do you have a bucket list as a person with chronic illness? Here are some of the barriers that stand in my way to achieving them.
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  • I had no idea about the rules in Singapore. I know land is scarce there, but wow! Is most land not private property there?

    I love the idea of having a bucket list, even if health and finances make it hard for things to happen. I want to travel all over the world, but I know my health will stop me in some places. Still, it’s nice to have a goal to look to.

  • It seems like you will have a queue for your memoir! I love that you not only have your bucket list but you are working away at it bit by bit – us chronic illness ninjas can totally achieve our goals if we hit it this way. I can’t wait to hear your progress on these šŸ™‚

  • OK, so I am now going to totally bug you about writing a memoir!!!! You write so beautifully and I know I would love to read it šŸ™‚

  • Katie Clark

    I so enjoyed reading this, Sheryl. I feel like I’ve come to know you even better. I believe what once fit our needs/purpose doesn’t always stay. Thank you for providing this platform. It’s one of my favorite writes šŸ™‚ For some reason the topics provide something that pulls things out of me I didn’t plan on. I know that you have in you to be a wonderful mom. You are a mom of sorts to many in the way you show your caring. Tally will be a great big brother, too šŸ™‚ I look forward to reading your memoir. That is one of my bucket list goals that I need to focus time on; my novel. I’ve got to figure out how to work that in.

  • Pain Reaction

    I had the same thoughts before I decided to have a kid. I’ve raised several puppies, gotten pretty good at it. I was so not prepared for how much more pain I’m in now. I knew I would hurt more, but oh my god it’s bad. My daughter is 8 months old now and just keeps getting heavier, I can’t wait until she can walk. However, I did plan for at least some increase in pain knowing that it would be relatively short term when you consider the stages of childhood. Might be several years of increased pain levels but it’s worth it in the long run I think. Damn well better be šŸ˜›

    I hope you get to accomplish at least one of your goals in the reasonably near future.

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